there are a few things i learned about older men that i looked for when dating one. i just hope my advise helps someone like me when i was looking.
understand why you are dating him.
when i say this.... i mean seriously look at why you like him. this will determine if you do. if its his money you like, it wont last. something he does may creep you out once u really get to know him and that may turn you off. gold digging is understandable but its not worth it. finding a guy who makes you happy and is secure is fine, just make sure the money isn't what your after. when i first met my guy i had no idea what he had and i still went on a date and liked him all the same it just turned out he was very stable.
2.They don't think like we do and may make you re-evaluate your self.
i noticed a lot of changes in myself. i started drinking more with him, my dreams were still there but i took a different approach. my emotions were all over the place and he is so calm i almost thought he didn't care about anything. i didn't want to lose myself dating somebody because that's why they are there right because they liked the you that they met. he made me want to strive to do better because he was so comfortable and i wanted to be the same . if hes a lot older and no kids and just works you have to look into why that is. some men like to be alone or just cant seem to hold onto a relationship because they have commitment issues. don't bite off more than you can chew.
3. WHY DOES HE LIKE YOU?.
THIS IS A BIG ONE.
older men like younger woman for looks... point blank period. you look good and you make them look good. only after getting to know you will it be anything more. its physical at the beginning and you have to have substance to change that . they look at woman all damn day. everywhere they go and if they see prettier whats going to keep you around if your just ass and a pretty face? if you are really into this guy you have to be the bright shinning confident unique you so there is no competition no matter how damn pretty somebody is. the way a girl dresses can top a pretty face any day. to have style confidence be healthy and have sass and spunk shows well roundness and that is not always easy to find. don't get hurt being caught up in am i good enough he may leave you and have you hating yourself or believing your nothing.
4. Understand they have been through a lot more than you. ok.. but how does that affect anything.. right?
the old folk stories of older means wiser has some truth too it and its not always in a good way. they can be wiser as in learned a lesson but their lesson may not be constructive or effective in your particular relationship. for example my buy treated me the way he thought i would like to be treated instead of learning from me he used a past relationship to dictate his moves and motives. thankfully he changed when he learned what i was interested in but sometimes all men are not the same . i am very expressive and explained to him what i wanted. don't ever be afraid and don t ever hold your tongue to keep somebody when you are not happy especially an older man understand he may not be for you.
5.DOES HE MAKE YOU HAPPY AND VISE VERSA?
if its a fling ok. understand that and make it clear. if you want more from him make sure he is on the same page, it can be a heart breaking experience for both parties if the feelings ar not mutual. lets not damage any one more then they already have been.
6. DO YOU CARE WHAT PEOPLE THINK ABOUT IT?
if you do things shyly with this guy because you are embarrassed or you feel wierd allow yourself and he to understand he is not what you want. f you deeply care for a person you will allow him into what ever avenues you are in yourself. if not... its a a sign you really aren't that into him. or your image to your friends and family means more o you than the relationship.
ALL IN ALL UNDERSTAND WHY YOU ARE THERE AND LETT HE FLOWER FLOURISH INTO THE CORRECT DIRECTION AS MINE IS BLOOMING INTO ANOTHER YEAR OF ENJOYING EACH OTHER EACH DAY,!