hoping to be motivation for somebody reading this...
today i woke up upset due to a guy i have pretty strong feelings for not texting me back... again.. after a few words we had yesterday which ended as pretty much i love to hear from you every time you text me to ignoring me just because he can.
for one men do things to be chased the day we live in today there are few and few less men.
they grow up with spoons in their mouths and expect a woman to hand feed them everything including love they don't ever give in return.
these boys never grow up and always are trying to find themselves and cant ever make up their minds.. these are huge signs that they are not the one for you.
i have learned the hard way that being independent is like a repellent for some guys in general and the guys you do grab always have some sort of issues.
he changed my mind set, had me thinking it was me or that my standards were too high or that i'm not as good of a person that i think i am or that i'm not worth everything that i think i am worth but let me tell you now belle's,
if a man has you feeling that way you need to run as fast as you can.
waking up feeling worthless because of somebody else is like choosing to be alive for somebody else you are not your own owner. its like being a slave on a plantation they completely control your life and every part of your emotional being.
it's hard to get over a person you were head over heels with but let me tell you it's very possible and you have to do it yourself.
a lot of times i would ask myself what do you see in this guy you literally hate him yet you have feelings for him and allow him to mistreat you.
i have realised that no matter what us women feel like we need to be at somebody's feet.
we have to feel needed or have to settle just to feel some love like we aren't good enough to find a person we actually need and want we just settle for what we have and we cannot do that.
allowing a man to do that takes away our self pride and only leads you down the road of it happening again.
once it happens it's always easier for it to happen again we see it but ourself pride and value are down from the last situation that is what we gravitate to.
there is a guy i work with who talks about his wife in this godly sense,
he tells me that because she made him wait to even kiss her until they were married he has more respect for her and pursued her more because he felt like she was worth more.
that struck me in a few different scenarios, for one he told me the best thing about her was that he was the only one who has had her... which in my opinion is the stupidest thing i have ever heard because of how much she does for him out of pure love. so i thought to myself the best... that's the best thing. out of all the things she does would that not matter because you were the only one to have slept with her?
that gives me a different perspective of men. woman are seen as property like a car, if its nice and low miles no matter if the damn thing can even drive as long as its pretty and no one else has had it its worth showing off, but get a car that's still beautiful or even more beautiful and add that it drives but it was previously owned and you will side ways glance at it because of your ego. i want something new...
a lot of woman in this world marry as virgins and i applaud them to the highest senses.
but there are a lot of woman who wed without and date on a normal basis without being virgins and it doesn't make them any less valuable.
living in a world where you are shamed in every way for everything don't allow yourself to also shame you when you may be the only person to see your self worth.
NO MATTER WHAT IT IS YOU HAVE DONE IN THE PAST you can be who you want to be and appreciated the way you want to be appreciated.
don't waste time with people who only want one thing from you, don't allow yourself to be brought down by a person who does not even know the self qualities or what they are worth and want for themselves just going through life taking life each day at a time and has no plans to change and are fully comfortable where they are.
a person who does not accept self growth everyday is a person with an ego or a severely damaged inner conscious, they either believe this is the best they can do or they believe they are the best they ever need to be and all of which are issues in itself.
BE THE PERSON YOU WANT TO SEE HAPPY WITH SOMEBODY ELSE, BE THE PERSON YOU SEE SOMEBODY FALLING OVER HEELS WITH, BE THE PERSON WHO LOOKS FOR HAPPINESS AND SELF WORTH AND LOVES ALL AND CAN CHANGE THE PERSPECTIVE OF OTHERS
BE YOUR OWN SMART, YOUR OWN BEAUTIFUL YOUR OWN YOU.... AND PRESENT YOURSELF TO THE WORLD NO MATTER IS YOUR ACCEPTED OR NOT.. ACCEPT YOURSELF AND LET OTHERS FOLLOW YOUR LEAD.
RING THE BELLE'S AND BE SWELL DREA SIGNING OFF.