being a mom to a little beautiful girl... 10 rules i follow.
the lessons i learned before her shaped my perspective of her future. i use knowledge, experience, her personality and the times we live in shape how i parent so here they are 10 major things i learned to do and not to do with a little girl
ALLOW THEM TO UNDERSTAND NO IS APPROPRIATE AT TIMES. this is important because as a girl people in general will try to take advantage of you, she needs to know when it comes to her body or anything involving her feeling secure and not uncomfortable no matter how old she is she can say no.
i do this by allowing her to tell me or any relatives no when it comes to hugs and kisses. you cant force a child to be affectionate if she doesn't want to.
this will inhabit her to know when something ks out of the ordinary.she has the right to say no even if its mommy and daddy. teaching her to trust you as well matters.
2. allow their creativity to blossom by showing them the possibilities...
how will your child know how to paint if they have never done it before, or draw,dance anything? this is a crucial stage when talents are developed and recognized. be that parent that experiments with their child and learns about their child's likes and dislikes . let them blossom..
On the contrary.. don't force an activity on the child! if they are not interested respect it might not be their thing.. no matter how many martial arts family members passed down the tradition if it isn't them, respect it!!
3. sleep.... my kid was always grumpy.. always telling me no this and i don't wanna that giving me unnecessary hell.. one day she was put on punishment (confined to her room) and went to sleep early about 7 pm.
slept all night woke up a different child! i usually let her stay up until before i go to work 11pm so it fits my schedule but i'm here to tell you that's a hell no for a young kid! her sleeping longer makes her more pleasant that's for sure! ON THE CONTRARY HOWEVER... forcing a kid to sleep for your own personal benefit can have an affect.
your child may start to think you don't like them and act up a lot at bedtime for attention. a set schedule is best.. but if your like me can be impossible.. just follow your child's signs. but don't allow them to dictate you
4. ALLOW YOUR CHILD TO UNDERSTAND AND LOVE WHO THEY ARE.
i'm so strict when it comes to dolls and things with my daughter. I want her to understand who she is is beautiful in every way and due to this i limit the amount of races she has for dolls. i want her to be used to herself and play with a doll similar to her, hair texture, skin tone ect.
i think it teaches your child that what you are is beautiful and gets them accustom to themselves. she also has dolls of other races but i don't allow her to play with all one race of dolls.
i don't want her to look at a doll and say i wish i looked like that and start the self hate thing. no Buenos.... plus having a few dolls of other races gets her used to playing with other children who are not like her, she will be used to not judging some body by their looks.
6 TEACH YOUR CHILD REAL LIFE SKILLS.......
this is particular important because the skills they will learn as a kid will be the ones they look to when they are an adult.
skills like fire starting safely... think about it don't u remember stop drop and roll when you were taught as a kid? these skills stick... sewing, cooking basics, camping, bike riding, skating things like this your kid will grow up and just be able to do.
children are the biggest investment u will have ever.. because it doesn't just cost money it literally takes physical energy and DNA cells to make it happen.. treat them as such.
7. SHOW THEM THAT PEOPLE MATTER.....
no matter what type of situation you are in teaching your children to care for people will shape their well being.
be the parents that argues behind clothes doors and only shows your child how to love and effectively communicate problems. a lot of children are scarred by their parents relationships determine the path they take.. they learn all this from their parents... if you teach them to love they will love.. me and my child's father are not together but we still do family events together due to us realizing she is all that matters in the end and we share the beautiful moments she creates for us together... that's how it should be.. do we want to cut each other sometimes yes but she never sees that side because its not for her to see it.
8. TEACH YOUR KIDS GOOD EATING AND EXERCISE HABITS EARLY!
'i started my low carb diet when amaris was 3 and i don't force it on her due to the fact she is a child... but teaching your children to eat healthy and exercise regularly will kill the future of obesity.
when you work out find ways to incorporate your children into them. for example i dance around the house with amaris and i'm worn out just as much as a natural work out. but she also is dancing so its a win win.
the worst thing is for your child to grow up on snacks and be the fat child that gets picked on in school all because they were taught food is for fun and not nutrition.
shape your child's future.. i'm not saying monitor your child's weight... we are all different end even with exercise and diet the child will grow how they grow. what i am saying is teach them how to exercise and be active naturally and eat for nutrition and not for fun and it can change your kids life in the long run.
9. BE YOUR CHILD ROLE MODEL..
be the person you want your child to grow up to be. they will copy your every move...
when it comes to actions think hm.. would i like my child to be doing this if they were an adult? becoming the person you want to be with your dreams can be hard but your child is watching you. you take an easy way out what makes you think they wont? you give up what makes you think they wont.
be the person your child and yourself can be happy to look up to.
10... SHOW THEM THE WORLD...
THE WORST THING TO DO IS TO HAVE YOUR CHILD BE CAPTIVE TO ONE PLACE, NEVER GO ANYWHERE OR SEE ANYTHING AND GROW UP AND THEIR LIFE PASSES THEM BY AND T
THEY YEARN TO SEE THE WORLD.
I THINK SHOWING THEM DIFFERENT ENVIRONMENTS TEACHES THEM TO BE MORE OPEN MINDED WHEN IT COMES TO MEETING AND .INTERACTING WITH PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT LIKE THEM. LEARNING DIFFERENT CULTURES AND MANNERS CAN BE THE DIFFERENCE ESPECIALLY IN CAREERS IN CUSTOMER SERVICE.
LEARNING OTHER LANGUAGES AND ETHICS IS AN AMAZING SKILL SO MANY PEOPLE DON'T HAVE THE LUXURY OF HAVING.. CREATE THESE OPPORTUNITIES FOR THEM...INTERACTING WITH PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT LIKE THEM. LEARNING DIFFERENT CULTURES AND MANN
IN SUMMARY BE PARENTS AND NOT JUST MOMS AND DADS, BE TEACHERS, DOCTORS, LAWYERS AND STOCK BROKERS FOR YOUR KIDS... UNTIL NEXT TIME.... SIGNING OFF... REMEMBER DO WHAT YOU LOVE...